For quite some time, I have believed that nothing is right or wrong, it's all subjective. Maybe, this is true. Or maybe I was just trying to please both sides by staying neutral.
I asked some of my closest friends: why do people have casual hookups these days? Isn't it bad? For me, having a physical connection with someone is really precious and special, and I believe it should be the last step in a connection. These days, people get physical first and then try to understand each other if they decide to meet again.
I got some answers from my friends. They said it's social media that's degrading people. People do it for stress relief; everyone around is mentally stressed, and these are coping methods, whether it's sex, alcohol, or smoking.
Some people said it's bad; some people said not all hookups are bad if they are keeping you out of depression, stress, or mental disorders.
What I realized is that the right and wrong side of this depends on whether you have done it for whatever reasons. People who did it will defend it, and people who haven't will defend the other side. Both think they are on the right side.
Yes, social media is degrading people and the lifestyle, but you know what, before doing this, it actually revealed those people. It acts as a filter. Maybe people are doing casual stuff to cope with their life. Maybe it's helping them. So, maybe it is right.
But aren't there many, many other things to do to get out of these griefs and stresses? I love watching movies because it helped me get out of a serious stress condition in my 12th grade. There are other ways, I believe.
But whatever the reason might be, I believe these physical connections are bad quality connections. It's my personal belief, and you might think differently.
Is it that hard to wait for the right person? Finding that pure connection with someone, someone who's the one for you? I am not saying don't try connecting with many people and trying to find that one. But it shouldn't be with a physical-first attitude. That's not good.
Sometimes I get worried about this. Maybe the person I like or will like in the future will also have had such connections. Because more people are getting added to this set of 'physical connection first.' And I would always seek a genuine connection, one that lasts for a lifetime!
Because everyone deserves such pure connections, and not regrets...